How do you handle adversity?


“Mercury is in retrograde. That has to be it babe!”

My boyfriend looked at me and rolled his eyes.

We were in the midst of the most frustrating situation ever and I was convinced that that damn Mercury had something to do with it.

It all began three weeks ago when H’s work visa renewal application was suddenly denied and he was given two days to leave the country. What?! After three and a half years of living and working here he was just denied with scarcely an explanation.

This wouldn’t have been so terrible but we’d just come back to Montenegro 3 days before from an absolutely insane trip to five different countries and three weddings. All we could think about was laying on the couch for a week and getting some grounding.

We decided to head to Italy so he could meet with a business partner and well, it’s Italy so we figured we’d try and make the best of a raw deal. We rented a car and headed up the Croatian coast (beautiful, highly recommend as a vacay by the way) and a couple hours into the drive our car started cutting out. Oy. Yup the engine pretty much died three different times, on a very busy highway. We finally got to Trieste and made our way to the Airbnb place we’d rented and learned that the car had some kind of faulty computer chip. At least that was an easy fix but luck was clearly not on our side that weekend.

Two days later we headed out to Trento where H was going to do business and I was gonna hole up in our hotel room to get massive amounts of work done. By Friday he was all finished and we drove to Venice for the day (see pic below). That was a true highlight as Venice is one of those surreal magical places that feels almost like a Universal Studios theme park.

Then we drove a little south to Verona (home of Romeo and Juliet) to check it out for a few days. By then I was in a panic about my business and not being able to get enough done – a somewhat constant worry of mine, which was only heightened by all the traveling in September. I know every woman can relate to this, business owner or not. It creates such a feeling of overwhelm and anxiety in me that I feel like I might suffocate sometimes! I found it hard to have any fun with this huge weight sitting on me.

A couple days later, we drove south to Tuscany to spend one night there before heading down to Bari on the southeast coast to catch a ferry back to Montenegro. And that’s when the shit really hit the fan.

We pull into Bari and go to get the ferry tickets. At this point we’re planning to get H back into Montenegro on a provision in the law that states anyone can come in for up to 7 days without a visa if they are allowed into the EU, the UK or the US. Easy right? Well, not when Mercury is in Retrograde apparently!

We got our tickets and to my awe and delight, I saw a sign for an Eataly restaurant. Eataly is like a warehouse of the most delicious Italian food in existence. And this one just happened to be in a random port town in the south of Italy.

The ferry guy warned us that they steal everything here so we parked the car just outside the restaurant where there were a lot of people milling about. Unfortunately H left his satchel in which he had his laptop and iPad in the car and we came back to a broken window and a stolen satchel. You know when your intution is telling you to do something, practically screaming it at you and you don’t listen? Yeah that was me – knew he should have taken his bag but didn’t make him do it.

Defeated, we headed over to the ferry terminal to board the ferry. We were sure the night couldn’t get any worse. Then everyone begins poring over H’s passport because they are convinced he needs a visa. We explained everything and showed them proof of their own laws backing up our claim. And no dice. In the end, he had to get off the ferry and I had to travel back to Montenegro alone because we had to return the cursed rental car!

It’s now been just over a week since all that drama went down and H is still stuck in Italy because every visa avenue they’ve explored has come up short. And I’m here alone packing up our apartment so we can leave – we were going to be leaving Montenegro permanently at the end of October anyways – but this has seriously thrown a wrench in our well-laid plans.

The hits keep coming in waves too – his phone wasn’t working properly, then the internet suddenly stopped working at the place he was staying in Italy so he had to find new accommodation, blah blah blah – and it feels like it’s never going to end.

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I recognize that problems will present themselves to us throughout our existence. I’m definitely no stranger to adversity but I’ve had to dig real deeeep to find some sense of calm and surrender in this insane process. I’m also trying to find the lessons and the silver linings. I’m not gonna lie though, it’s been a massive test in every way. My friend Malissa said my life is like a Liam Neeson movie. LOL I’m inclined to agree.

P.S. In case you’re wondering, H is not stuck in Italy forever! We’re just in a holding pattern right now while the apartment gets packed up and he decides whether to go meet with his investors. And of course I decided to spay and neuter the cats in the neighborhood who have adopted us and their stitches can’t come out for another couple of days. My good deed for the week. :-)

Right now here’s what I am doing to get through:

1. I’ve accepted that adversity is inevitable. I’ve always liked the line “Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional.” However, I’m human which means I’m not necessarily handling any of this in the most stellar way. I’ve had my share of meltdowns and freakouts but I keep reminding myself that this will pass.

2. Perspective. A good friend and I chatted a couple days ago and she told me about a friend who had lost her boyfriend of 9 years to cancer last week. Three days before he died she discovered that for years he’d been having affairs with women he found on craigslist. Such an unbelievably heartbreaking story and suddenly, perspective. While our little immigration drama is quite miserable, we’re both still alive and here for each other.

3. Talking to all my friends! A lot! I simply do not know what I would do without the women in my life. Sisterhood and a support system is the key to getting you through when the going gets tough.

4. Taking care of myself. Luckily Montenegro is a super cheap country to be stuck in. One-hour massages cost 15euros and the infra-red sauna is only 8euros a pop! Movie tickets are 3.50 and gelato is 80 cents! Haha. Life ain’t that bad!

I’d love to hear what you do when caught in an untenable situation. How do you handle it and most importantly what does it cultivate in you?  


Body Building Your Vagina


This post was written by my friend Barbara Loomis LMT, RES, aka “Alignment Monkey” and goddess of all things related to pelvic health. 

This is my email response to a question about using vaginal weights for a prolapse.

As a  Restorative Exercise Specialist, my approach when working with pelvic floor weakness is to bring the body into alignment (through Restorative Exercise™ and natural movement).  When you  move naturally throughout the day, the pelvic floor responds to the loads placed on it.  You don’t need to “spot treat” the pelvic floor. Strengthening should happen naturally.  If your pelvic floor isn’t responding appropriately then perhaps it’s because you’re not allowing it to function as a whole with the rest of your body.

When you focus on the pelvic floor through vaginal weights or Kegels, you isolate only one piece of a complex system.  By spot treating the pelvic floor, you leave out other very important players in pelvic floor health which are the respiratory diaphragm, multifidus, transverse abdominis, gluteus maximus, lateral rotators of the hips and the feet (yes the feet!). What you may end up with when you spot treat with vaginal weights or several hundred Kegels a day is a hypertonic pelvic floor.  Short muscles don’t equal strong muscles. Muscles need to be at the correct length (not too short and not too long) for optimal force generation.

Another thing to think about is that if you are sitting or standing with a posteriorly tilted pelvis or have a counter-nutated sacrum you’re not allowing the uterosacral ligaments (USL) to do their job. When the pelvis is in neutral the uterus is suspended by the USL.  Ligaments need proper direction of load to stimulate the correct balance of collagen production. One of the main supporting ligaments of the uterus is the uterosacral ligament, and if the USLs aren’t loaded correctly because you are sitting on your tailbone (post tilted pelvis) the  ligaments loose their strength and resiliency.  How can the USL suspend the uterus if the uterus is sitting on the USL? It can’t! So it makes sense  with a prolapsed uterus to support from above instead of just focusing on walling organs in with a tight pelvic floor.

The body is beautifully designed to hold in our organs without artificial weight training, we have prolapses because we aren’t using our bodies the way they’re designed to be used. By honoring the biomechanical design of your body and using it the way nature intended-minimizing sitting and avoid wearing positive heeled shoes (read about what high heels do to your uterus here), moving in alignment and changing our societal beliefs about how women should sit and walk (tailbone tucked, feet close together-you know, “like a lady”). Otherwise, we aren’t getting to the root of the problem.  We are not broken, we just have to stop getting in our own way.

As far as helping women identify their pelvic floor, I use stance to do so, not weights. When you breathe naturally (expanding the ribcage in a circumference with ribcage aligned over neutral pelvis) the pelvic floor elastically loads and your body responds by building the strength needed for YOUR particular body mass not an arbitrary weight.

Biomechanist Katy Bowman sums it up so well, “The pelvic floor is under constant load, you shouldn’t have to train it.  If it’s not responding its positionally not able to do so.  Positionally meaning, it’s position to the ground or it’s sarcomere position.”

Want to learn more:

Alignment Snacks, All Fo’ the Pelvic Flo’, Walk This Way, Stand This Way, and Frankie Says: Relax The Psoas,Leg Goes Forward, Leg Goes Back.  These 30 minute classes help to release the muscles that are keeping your pelvis from being in neutral and help strengthen the muscles that will support your pelvic floor.

It’s always best to have someone trained in Restorative Exercise™ look at your alignment objectively, and give you guidance.  To find a Restorative Exercise™ Specialist in your area click here.  If you can’t find one in your area, I offer SKYPE appointments- click here.  I also see clients at my Portland, Oregon office.

Watch Katy Bowman demystify the pelvic floor here:

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The school that changed everything for me {how I became a health coach}


Over the years I’ve gotten many emails from women asking me how I got my business started.

I’d been google doctoring myself and my friends for years and knew I needed to get serious with a more formal eduction. I’d learned about the Institute for Integrative Nutrition in 2008 quite serendipitously through my chiropractor’s wife who was flying from Florida (where I lived at the time) to NYC each month for live classes so she could become a certified health coach. That’s how good it was! :-) I did a little research and knew immediately that this was the school for me. #gutfeelings peeps!

Fast forward to 2009 – I literally packed up and moved from Florida to NYC so I could go to IIN’s last live class that would begin in early 2010. Honestly, words can’t really describe what went down during my time at IIN. Transformation, magic, life-long friendships, seeing leaders in health speak live on stage, becoming certified as a health coach. I also experienced a lot of hardship as I navigated through my divorce and tried to blaze a new path in my career. There is no doubt that this school rocked my world and changed my life big time though!

As a result my life is now virtually unrecognizable to what it was just four years ago. Sometimes I need to pinch myself to believe it. IIN was the spring board for my health coaching career. It gave me a broad understanding of coaching, nutrition and health that I just didn’t have before.

Anyways, the point of telling you all this is IIN is currently enrolling for it’s last class of the year and if you’re in the place I was four years ago – deeply desiring a positive change in your career and your LIFE – then you must explore this opportunity. Like, you literally have to trust the universe and make the leap.

In 2010 I had no idea what the hell I was gonna do – I could barely afford to live in NYC, my marriage was falling apart, my TV production gigs were crazy and exhausting and I knew I needed a change but I was straight up terrified. It didn’t matter though…this was the huge leap of faith that I needed to take in order to get to the other side.

If you’re relating to what I’m saying sista then this opportunity could be for you. I’ve got TWO $1000 scholarships available to anyone who wants to enroll in IIN’s last class of the year. Enrollment closes on Monday October 20th so you need to act quick. If you’re worried about cash they’ve got amazing payment plans available. 

Here’s how you get started:

  1. Click here to check out a free sample class from IIN.
  2. Give them a call and chat with one of their on-staff coaches who can tell you all about the program. Tell them I referred you so you can get the huge $1000 discount. Their number is (844) 315.8547. It’s a free call in the US.

Some of the amazing things you’ll get upon enrolling:

A world-class curriculum in holistic health, coaching skills, business training, an amazing supportive community, a convenient on-the-go Learning Center, free live conferences every year, your own complimentary website and business cards, and so much more. It is a life-changing experience that’s truly priceless.

If you want to ask me about my experience then just email me at and I’ll personally respond to all your q’s. 


Birth Control Options 101


The Wild World of Birth Control Options

You know that feeling you get when you’re trying to choose a paint color at Home Depot? Yeah that feeling of sheer bewilderment as you stare at the 437 different shades of yellow. Most of them would probably work in your bedroom but they also each have their own unique, yet subtle qualities so it becomes impossible to choose. AND, when you finally get over that hurdle, you then have to choose the brand of paint along with whether you want eggshell, semi-gloss or flat.

Decisions! Decisions! I liken this paint-choosing process to the task of trying to navigate the vast array of birth control options, methods and brands and how to determine which one (if any) is for you. A daunting mission to say the least!

Unfortunately, in most cases your doctor will make this important decision for you. BUT there is a lot you SHOULD know about what will happen once birth control and your body become acquainted – much more than what that little tri-fold birth control brochure will tell you.

And who are we kidding? That brochure usually ends up at the bottom of your purse and eventually in the garbage (unread) anyways right?

So, why is it that we aren’t more inquiring about what we’re putting into our bodies and how it will affect us? The answer to that is complicated but it starts with the fact that we are not taught, at any age, to be curious about our bodily functions, much less how to decipher what’s going on “down there.”

But that’s why I’m here! :-)

Back when I started taking the pill, I sure wish I had known all that I know now, particularly about side effects. I’m positive I would’ve made a much more informed and educated decision, which would have saved me years of health issues.

Consider this post a little Birth Control 101 for you. While it’s not necessary to get a Masters Degree in this subject it is important to educate yourself. It is your body after all!

Birth Control Options 101

Non-Hormone options

1. Natural Family Planning (NFP) or Fertility Awareness-Based Methods – the best!

Approx Cost: Cheap – the cost of a basal thermometer and the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility and maybe some additional education if you want it.

How it works:

No drugs, no devices, and inexpensive. What more could you want right?

There are a number of fertility awareness-based methods but I recommend using the sympto-thermal method which is most effective. This method includes measuring basal body temperature, observing cervical fluid patterns and cervical position throughout the month. The one I use is the Fertility Awareness Method (FAM) developed by Toni Weschler. Additionally, I recommend the Billings Method which is very similar to the Fertility Awareness Method.

Natural Family Planning is by far the healthiest of all the birth control options because it allows you to be in control of your own body. All it requires is a basal thermometer, a period tracking app or paper chart to record your cycle information and some guidance on how to start. Some women also get formal training from a specialist but that’s not necessary.

Once you get started then you’re the boss of you which is hugely empowering.


According to Planned Parenthood, of 100 couples who use the sympto-thermal method correctly for one year, 0.4 (fewer than one) will have a pregnancy. That is just as effective as all of the hormonal birth control methods! Here’s another study for you too [1].

Dat’s wassup! :)  

What else you should know:

Most common question: “Isn’t this just the rhythm method?”

The answer is a resounding no. The rhythm method and/or calendar method is not an effective form of birth control and is based entirely on a woman ovulating on day 14 and getting her period on day 28. The sympto-thermal method is effective because you are measuring your own fertility signs and symptoms and determining the exact days you are fertile. Once you’ve done that you can either avoid sex or use a barrier and/or the withdrawal method. 

Added bonus - this method can indicate other issues as well – taking your basal temp can help detect an under-active thyroid, it can tell you whether you are or are not ovulating and if your luteal phase is too short. Charting your cervical fluid can help detect changes that may occur due to an infection, an STD and cervical dysplasia. You can then go straight to your doctor with your findings long before the condition progresses.

2. Withdrawal Method

Approx Cost: Free

How it works:

Commonly known as the “pull-out method” or “pull & pray” (haha), this method is simply the penis being withdrawn from the vagina before ejaculation occurs.


This method is surprisingly effective! I know, shocking right? In fact when used correctly it is 96% effective! If used incorrectly it is only 78% effective though. In order to do the withdrawal method properly, the man must pull out before ejaculation and if you decide to go for round two, he must urinate before doing so to get any remaining sperm out of his urethra.

What else you should know:

There have been a number of studies [2] done on whether pre-ejaculate contains live sperm and the evidence overwhelmingly suggests that pre-ejaculate secretions do not contain live sperm.

Hormonal Options

 1. Combined Hormonal Birth Control Pill

Birth control pills

Approx Cost: $15 – $100 per month depending on health coverage and where you live.

How it works:

By far the most common birth control option, the pill releases the hormones estrogen and progestin, which prevent ovulation.


  • The combined pill is 99.7% effective if taken each day as directed.
  • It is only 91% effective if not taken as directed – pills are skipped, etc.

Please note: there is evidence [3] that suggests the pill is not as effective for women who weigh more than 70kg/154lbs and/or have a BMI of 25 and above.

What else you should know:

Unfortunately, the pill comes with a host of undesirable side effects that include, gut/digestive problems, Amenorrhea (no periods), lack of ovulation, mild to severe acne, thyroid dysfunction, mild to severe mood disorders, disruptive food cravings, low to non-existent sex drive, lack of vaginal lubrication, painful sex, thinning of the vaginal tissue and weight gain or inability to lose weight, just to name a few.

Read about clitoral shrinkage here and other things you should know about hormonal birth control here and here.

While there may not be conclusive scientific studies proving all of these side effects, the thousands of women who’ve contacted me in the last four years about their symptoms are proof that the pill can be very harmful. So, proceed with caution.

2. Progestin-Only Pill (Mini-Pill)

Approx Cost: $15 – $100 per month depending on health coverage and where you live

How it works:

This pill is different than the regular pill in that it only releases progestin in the form of norethindrone or norgestrel, (synthetic forms of progesterone). It’s commonly prescribed to women who are very sensitive to estrogen in traditional pills and breastfeeding women because progestin doesn’t suppress milk production. It might also be given to women who are a little older, women who have had breast cancer or other health conditions like high blood pressure, heart disease or history of blood clots.


If taken perfectly, that is at the exact same time every day, it is 99.7% effective. If it is not taken at the exact same time every day, then it is only 91% effective. [4]

What else you should know:

The most common side effect is breakthrough bleeding, spotting and irregular menstrual cycles. See above for other side effects that might occur.

3. Birth Control Patch – Ortho Evra

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Approx Cost: $0-$80 a month depending on insurance coverage and where you live.

How it works:

The patch was basically created for women who have trouble remembering their daily pill. It is worn on the skin (usually on the arm) and is changed only once per week for three weeks and then the fourth week is patch-free. It also releases estrogen and progestin like the birth control pill.


It’s similar to the birth control pill in that it is 99.7% effective with perfect use and 91% effective if not used correctly. As in, you forget to put the patch on after your patch-free week or the patch comes loose and falls off.

What else you should know:

I said it all in the birth control pill section above! :-)

4. Vaginal Ring – NuvaRing

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Approx Cost: $0 – $80 per ring/month depending on insurance coverage and where you live.

How it works:

This device is worn inside the vagina and releases estrogen and progestin, the same hormones as the pill and patch. Each month you put it in for three weeks then take it out for one week to get your period. After your period, you put a new one in and so on.


The vaginal ring is 99.7% effective when used correctly – worn for three weeks, taken out for one week. If not used correctly the success rate drops to 91%. You might forget to put it in after your period, it can slip out of your vagina and you have to get it back in within 3 hours and you must have it in for 3 weeks in a row. Oh dear.

What else you should know:

Some women report vaginal irritation and other similar side effects that women experience on the pill and with the patch. It may cause increased vaginal discharge, vaginal irritation, or infection as well. Ugh.

5. Birth Control ShotDepo-Provera

Approx Cost: $20 per month or around $50 to $60 per 3-month injection

How it works:

The shot is similar to the mini-pill in that it only releases progestin in the form of depot medroxyprogesterone acetate or DMPA but unlike the mini-pill, you only have to get the shot once every 3 months. It’s mechanism essentially tricks the body into thinking it’s pregnant so an egg can’t be released.


This method is 99.8% effective if used correctly, meaning that you get the shot every 10-14 weeks. If you get it two or more weeks late, the effectiveness drops to 94%.

What else you should know:

While a shot once every three months might seem like a dream option, the Depo-Provera has a slew of side effects like significant weight gain, irregular bleeding, heavy and more frequent periods, continuous light bleeding, headaches, nausea and lower sex drive, just to name a few. As if that’s not bad enough, once you’ve taken the shot and you’re experiencing side effects, they aren’t gonna go away until the hormones leave your body in 12-16 weeks. Obviously this is not ideal.

6. Implant Implanon or Nexplanon

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Approx Cost: $0 – $800 every three years, depending on insurance coverage and where you live. The cost for removal is $0-$300.

How it works:

Known as a Long Acting Reversible Contraceptive (LARC), the implant is a matchstick-sized rod that’s injected under the skin of the upper arm. The implant releases progestin in the form of etonogestrel (the same progestin contained in the vaginal ring) and is effective for up to 3 years


The implant is considered the most effective form of birth control next to abstinence with only 0.05% of women getting pregnant.

What else you should know:

Warning, I’m gonna have a mini rant here:

I take issue with the fact that instead of being taught how our bodies work, we we are now instead being “immunized” against our own fertility.

While this might seem like an ideal option for many women, especially teens, I urge you to think about the long-term consequences of any hormonal birth control on your physical and emotional health. There are many and hindsight is 20/20.

Additionally, if you experience side effects with the implant, you have to see a doctor and fork over a lot of cash to have it removed. See the Combined Pill section for all the side effects you might experience. The most common one I’ve seen and read about with the implant is continuous bleeding and significant changes in mood, especially depression.

Also, look at these shocking injection site images! And check out this site for user reviews and this site too – many of them are pretty awful :-(

7. IUD (Intrauterine Device) ParaGard (Copper IUD) or Mirena (Hormonal IUD) 

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Approx Cost: $0 to $1000 for IUD and insertion, depending on insurance coverage and where you live.

How it works:

An IUD is a small T-shaped device that is inserted into the uterus. There are 2 options for IUDs. The copper IUD (ParaGard) releases copper which is toxic to live sperm and the Mirena releases progestin to prevent ovulation. The Paragard is effective for up to 12 years and the Mirena is effective for 5 years.


The Paragard is 99.2% effective and the Mirena is 99.8% effective.

What else you should know:

While this is a long lasting option, it is expensive and there can be quite a few side effects both while you have it in and after it is removed. Women have described tremendously long and painful periods along with very heavy bleeding when using the IUD. On the other hand, many women don’t experience side effects at all. Additionally, there is the chance that the IUD can fall out and can migrate and tear uterine tissue. If this happens it may need to be surgically removed. Interestingly, IUD’s have one of the highest satisfaction and continuation rates among patients.

Barrier Methods 

1. Male condom

Approx Cost: $1 each and sometimes they are available for free. I recommend L Condoms, because they don’t use glycerin or parabens and they distribute condoms in high-risk areas to people who can’t afford them. Also, Sir Richards is good for people who have latex allergies and Glyde for vegan condoms. 

How it works:

A thin sheath made of latex, polyurethane, animal membrane, silicone or other material that is placed over the penis right before intercourse. You were paying attention in sex ed class right? J


When used correctly, condoms only have a 2% failure rate but that drops significantly to 18% if used incorrectly. This could include putting it on or removing it incorrectly. 

What else you should know:

They’re really not that bad, especially if you’re tracking your cycle and know your fertile days. You’ll only have to use condoms for 5-7 days of the month in that case. Check out this video on how to use condoms the right way if you don’t know.

2. Diaphragm

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Approx Cost: $15 – $50, and the spermicidal jellies, foams, or creams that you need to use with it range from $7 – $18 per tube

How it works:

A diaphragm is a silicone dome that you place over the cervix before sex. It works by physically blocking sperm from entering the uterus combined with spermicide that kills the sperm.


The diaphragm is not super effective. If used correctly, it prevents pregnancy 94% of the time but if used incorrectly that drops to 88%. It makes sense to combine it with a condom or the withdrawal method to increase effectiveness.

What else you should know:

While the diaphragm is inexpensive and has no adverse effects on your health (YAY), it can be difficult to insert, can move around during sex, can’t be used during your period and has to be put in right before the fun begins which is kind of a mood killer.

3. Cervical Cap – FemCap

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Approx Cost: $89 for a FemCap kit

How it works:

The Femcap cervical cap is basically the diaphragm’s little sister. It is smaller and slips into place over the cervix and it also needs to be used with spermicide. Unlike the diaphragm, it comes in 3 sizes.


It is even less effective than the diaphragm, with only an 86% effective rate for women who have not had children and 71% for those who have.

What else you should know:

I’ve never used it and have not spoken to anyone who has, so can’t comment so much on user experience. I recommend  you check out for everything you need to know about how the FemCap works.

4. Birth Control Sponge Today Sponge

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Approx Cost: $0 – $15 for a pack of 3 sponges depending on where you live and insurance coverage.

How it works:

Sold as the Today Sponge, this birth control option is made of plastic foam and contains spermicide. Like the diaphragm, it is inserted into the vagina before sex and blocks the cervix from sperm while the spermicide kills the sperm. It’s sold at pharmacies and is intended for one-time use only.


Women who have never given birth and use the sponge as directed have a 91% effective rate, while women who don’t use it as directed have an 88% efficacy. It drops significantly for women who have given birth: 80% for those who use it correctly and 76% for those who don’t.

What else you should know:

There is an increased risk of Toxic Shock Syndrome (maybe because of the plastic) and yeast infections if left in for longer than 24 hours. Some women report vaginal irritation from the spermicide. Check out: for more deets.


Okay that’s it folks! Exhausting isn’t it? By providing this information I am not trying to overwhelm you, although the myriad options are most certainly staggering. Instead I want to invite you to get to know your body and figure out what is best for you to be at your optimum health and happiness.

Also, I know that my recommendations are somewhat biased but I cannot in good conscience recommend hormonal birth control because I just know too much! When you put synthetic hormones into your body you become another guinea pig for the pharmaceutical industry AND they win in the end with huge profits – $20 billion worldwide to be exact! With that said, you’ve gotta make the right decision for you and I respect every woman’s individual health choices. #girlpower

PS. I didn’t cover the female condom but you can learn about it here. I also didn’t mention Emergency Contraception/Morning-After pill because it is not a long-term contraceptive option. You can learn all about emergency contraception here.

Let me know in the comments what you use, how it has worked, side effects if any. Or maybe you agree/disagree with my viewpoints. I always enjoy the diverse comments I get on birth control posts like these :-)




2. 93. Zuckerman Z, Weiss DB, Orvieto R. Does pre-ejaculatory penile secretion originating from Cowper’s gland contain sperm? J Assist Reprod Genet. 2003;20:157-9.


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Kindara Introduces Wink


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As many of you know, I’ve been using the Fertility Awareness Method as a form of birth control for a loooonnng time. You also probably know that I am a huge fan of the Kindara app, an app that is based on the Fertility Awareness Method and helps you track your cycle along with primary fertility signs – basal temperature and cervical fluid changes.

The Kindara app is the bee’s knees so I’m thrilled to announce that they have just launched Wink, an oral fertility thermometer built to sync with their app. Whoo hoo!

Wink is so cool, not only because it takes your basal temperature but it automatically syncs with the Kindara app on your phone so you don’t have to remember to enter your temp. Hello to super accuracy and goodbye to lost readings and temperature input mistakes.

I can’t begin to describe how much this method of birth control has impacted my life and the lives of the women I share it with. I preach about understanding your body’s hormonal landscape through body awareness all the time and the Fertility Awareness Method along with Kindara + Wink are key tools for women who want to work with their bodies’ natural ebb and flow.

Check out Wink here and pre-order yours today! For a limited time they are just $79 each (normal price is $129).

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